Defending the Nanny

Nanny. Yes, I said the word.  Nanny.  Nanny.  Nanny.  Nanny.

When I think of a nanny, I think of Mary Poppins.  The magical supercalifragilisticexpialidocious Nanny for children that needed some discipline because they were spoiled brats from an upper crust family, with parents too busy to care about their own children.  I also think of Nanny McPhee, the long-nosed magical witchy looking nanny who is the last hope for the busy working undertaker Mr. Brown; to keep his seven children from being separated and shipped off to various relatives.  A more up-to-date version of the nanny is the reality show SuperNanny, a real English nanny that takes misbehaving children and shows the parents how they are really enabling this bad behaviour.

I have a Nanny.

There, it’s out. I have a Nanny.  It’s almost taboo in mom circles to speak this word.  I even have used the word babysitter or childcare instead of nanny.  I have feared the stunned looks, the comments,  and the shush-shushy whispers that might occur after leaving a room full of moms for the washroom.  I know because it has happened.

My adventures in childcare have been very teeter-totterish.  I have had excellent childcare to not so wonderful, to very concerning.  The best childcare came when my good friend and I swapped days.  I took care of her three for 2 days and she took care of my two for 3 days.  It was the best situation because our children LOVE each other and we both have the same views and methods of parenting. I don’t recommend this for everyone, as this is a very rare situation.

I first ventured into the Nanny world out of desperation but soon realized that this Nanny world was a good thing.

I didn’t have to wake crabby kids and battle them to get ready for the day.  The battles did not always happen, but when they did, they were epic.  I didn’t have to prepare snacks & lunches the night morning of daycare.  If I had questionably sick kids, you know the dry hacking cough or really clear running nose symptoms that could go one way or the other, I was not made to feel guilty if I went to work.  I would not be the one to infect the daycare or be blamed for an outbreak.  My children could go to the preschool that I chose and be surrounded by children that truly were their peers.

I found the Nanny became a member of our family.  Someone who lovingly cared for our children as much as my Man and I.  She was so much a part of our family, that she chose to attend the children’s birthday parties on her own and came with us on vacation (not working) with her boyfriend, who was equally loved by my children.

I am amazed at how many individuals inform me that they cannot afford a nanny.  Personally, I find that people can choose what they want to afford.  Is it more than daycare? It can be a little more, it just depends as you make the rate with the nanny.  But let me ask you a question.  How much extra would you pay knowing that your children are safe, secure, and happy.  It is much easier going to work knowing that they are being properly cared for.

As I write this post, I am receiving yet another message from a friend inquiring about hiring a Nanny.

Here are a few links that I have used:

www.canadiannanny.ca

www.nannyservices.ca

The only thing about hiring a nanny, is that you make all of the final decisions.  You must interview & ask the questions relevant to your family situation.  You have to ask them for criminal references checks.  You need to call the references.  You have to be the one to hire or fire.

I think that the most important part of nanny relationship or any relationship, is that you have excellent communication.  You must have a good rapport and be able to discuss everything and anything with them.  Be up front about money, hours, discipline techniques, food preferences, job expectations and make it clear what is important to you and your family.

I did not necessarily go for the individual with the most qualifications or experience, I went with who I thought would be a good fit with my children and with us, the parents.

My only regret about having a Nanny, is that we didn’t do it right from the beginning.

Peace of mind is a priceless item.

Mermaid Nanny & Merman

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Comments

  1. I think there are pros and cons to every situation, whether that be nanny, daycare, or staying at home with your kids. Having a nanny is certainly something I would consider if we decide to expand our family in the future. It’s too bad the word comes with those connotations and it’s REALLY too bad that people feel the need to judge. We all just need to respect each other’s parenting choices and quit the shushy whispers and sidelong glances. Good for you for coming out of the closet!

    • Naomi Jesson says:

      Thanks Amanda. Yes, I totally agree that we need to stop judging and supporting other mothers.

  2. “Peace of mind is a priceless item.” That sums it up right there. You know what is right for you in your heart and that is all that matters. Good for you for speaking your heart. Have a lovely day! 🙂

    • Naomi Jesson says:

      Thanks. I truly believe that you need to think with your heart on this one. Thanks Wendy!

  3. I think having a nanny can be a totally great thing. I’m not sure why any other parent would question you on that. Many of the people I worked with had a nanny, and it was something I researched when I was deciding if I was going to continue working or not. For me, when it comes to childcare, being secure in the type of care that your kids receive is THE BIGGEST thing for sure. Sounds like you’re in a great situation.

    • Naomi Jesson says:

      Thanks Marilyn. I guess that sometimes individuals think that its a ‘status’ thing but I do believe that the view of nanny’s is changing. Great point about being secure in the types of care your kids receive. I would rather pay more knowing that they have the best care besides Mom & Dad that is. 😛

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